Perfect Apology Tool Kit

Apology for Verbal Abuse

Dear [First Name],

I am deeply sorry for the verbal abuse that I subjected you to on [Date]. I understand that my words were hurtful, disrespectful, and completely unacceptable in addition to being delivered in an aggressive manner.

I want you to know that I feel terrible about causing you pain, and I am truly sorry for my actions.

I want to explain to you why I acted the way I did, but I don't want to make any excuses for my behavior. I was feeling [... unhappy, vulnerable, jealous, insecure, angry, in desperate need of alcohol, etc.] and I was frankly unable to cope with my emotions. I let my anger and frustration take over me, and I said things that I did not mean.

I realize now that this was a very unhealthy and inappropriate way to deal with my problems, and that I should have talked to you calmly and respectfully instead of attacking you.

I know that my verbal abuse has damaged our relationship and caused you pain, anger, and distrust, and I am truly sorry for that. I take full responsibility for my actions and I am committed to changing my behavior. I want to restore our relationship and earn back your trust and respect.

Please know that I am willing to do whatever it takes to make things right.

Please let me know if you are open to talking to me about all of this. I respect your feelings and your boundaries, and I will wait for you to contact me when you are ready. I hope that you can forgive me and give me another chance.

Again, I apologize from the bottom of my heart for my verbal abuse and for the harm it has done to our relationship. I love you and I care about you, and I want to be a better person for you and for myself.


[Your Name]

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